I won’t ask, “Oh, well, how’s the pregnancy or how was the birth?” I wait for them to bring it up. I won’t bring it up and it’s changed the way that I would interact with people. I think, in a way, it’s more thoughtful and maybe more cautious...
— Chris

People say, ‘I know you lost your baby but think about the parents who actually had kids, they got to know the kids and lost their children.’ I just feel like it doesn’t make a difference whether I didn’t get to know him or I did. I still lost my child.
— Friend of Tiffany's

A lot of kids feel as if they are not going to live, they are not going to live to be 21. When you have young people that don’t think they are going to live to be 21 and – you say, “What do you want to be when you grow up?” or “What about your future?” well, they don’t feel like they have a future. It’s reflected in their lifestyles, their music, the ease with which they kill each other.
— Judy

The thing that always got me was people would be willing to help. They would say, ‘What I can do? What can I do?’ I don’t know. I don’t know...So, when people would want to help if they would just say, ‘I’m bringing dinner over on Wednesday,” that would be wonderful. It’s just much easier than having to make another decision...
— Wendy

Over the years I’ve come to see who really is sensitive, who will simply say, ‘I don’t know what you need. I don’t know what to say, but I’m here for you,’ and that is much more meaningful than trying to have someone make it okay, because they can’t.
— Tonya