Recognizing that coping with the death of your child is something you'll do for the rest of your life, it is, perhaps, the most significant obstacle for many families. You may wonder: How can I go on? How can I smile or laugh again? Often, watching others cope and struggle with the same fundamental questions can help families feel less isolated and alone in their grief. It is normal to cry for a long time, it is normal to never be "healed," it is normal to keep a child's room for years, if not for more than a decade. We are all coping each day.